Asking for Clarification & Stating What I Need

by Gin
(Aptos, CA)

Recently I have discovered that I can find out what someone really means in a conversation by letting them know what I am assuming and asking for clarification. This tool has been very helpful in making heated/intense/confusing/emotional conversations go a little smoother. I have found that when I show an effort to understand what the other person is saying, not only do I achieve a better understanding, but the other person see's that I am really trying.

Another point I have learned that I should be more aggressive in expressing what I need. Often times I will ask for what I need, and form the request in a way that does not make my need seem very important. Or I might not ask at all. I often feel that others needs are more important than mine, so if our needs are in disagreement, I wont stand up for myself. I have learned that stating what I need instead of asking, had better results.