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Gateway to a Loveable Garden: Leaving Codependency Behind

I recently interviewed a client about leaving codependency behind. She graciously agreed to share her process with Turning Point readers. Here's what she had to say:

I’ve made the decision to put my heart and soul first in my life. I want to value myself and respect my existence.

I’m working on a new planting ground. I’ve taken out the weeds, added the fertilizer and now have new Earth.  She recently asked what I want to plant in this ground. Well, I don’t really know. Honestly, I never thought I could grow the things I want. I’ve
always just reacted to life, letting the weeds pop up here and there and everywhere.

So as I think of what I might plant, I start a list in my head: I want to feel healthy, I want to feel peace and tranquility. I want calm to exude through my presence. As I make my list, I recognize my co-dependent head wanting to take charge. It says, "If I want to be healthy then I must exercise and lose weight." There goes my co-dependent head again.

The co-dependent side of me urges me to follow a rigid diet and push myself to the extreme in an exercise program. Then, I can check that “healthy” box off the list. But, this doesn’t feel right. It feels like every other self-help-fix-it plan I’ve done all my life. I recognize this is my normal mode of operation. Have a problem? Fix it with a plan.

There’s nothing wrong with a plan of attack but, for me, it seems that I get lost in the execution or rigidity of the plan rather than doing the plan as a result of making a conscious decision. My co-dependent behavior is working the plan, working the plan and
working the plan so that soon, I can check the box. It means I will work till exhaustion and hate everything!

At this point, I can recognize when I get into the pattern of doing something primarily to gain recognition and acceptance. Its when I recognize I’m having the need to feel loved. This was how I survived in the past. But, it doesn’t work for me now. I want my health, peace and tranquility to be a result of the decisions I’ve made. Decisions that put me first rather than decisions others have made about what would make me loveable to them.

So now that I know I have this co-dependent head talking to me, I can recognize it, call it  out then move on. I want health in my garden!

If you have examples of letting go of co-depedent thinking, feeling and behaving and want to share, please feel free to email me your content and I'll be happy to make it happen.


The Best Way To Treat Anxiety and Depression

The Best Way To Treat Anxiety and Depression Is with cognitive behavior therapy and EMDR.

 

CBT and EMDR are considered treatments of choice by the mental health industry for anxiety and depression. However, like anything else, their effectiveness can be enhanced with complimentary medicine. In this post I'll highlight three potentially great power partners for CBT and EMDR in the treatment of anxiety and/or depression.

 

Medication for anxiety or depression can be an effective intervention when actively managed but, it may not be for everyone and, even though you may be ok with it as an adjuct to therapy, it may not be necessary. It is difficult to predict, even with the best assessment techniques, the efficacy of a drug. This reuqires a team often including a nurse and psychiatrist. Psychiatrists have highly specialized training and knowledge in pharmaceutical interventions and conduct comprehensive assessments to take into account the clients history and presentation of symptoms. The nurse's role is to educate the patient about the side effects and psychoactive properties of the drug and monitor side effects making adjustments actively as needed.

 

Are you serotonin deficient? Find out.

 

Homeopathy can be less invasive, less less uncomfortable, less risky and just as effective. Homeopathy works from the principle of "less is more". Activating the body's own storehouse of biochemicals, many of which are pain killers or mood enhancers homeopathy works to enhance and increase the body's own responses rather than to inhibit responses like ssri's do with the serotonin reuptake process. Homeopathy can create profound changes in mental, emotional and physical health. There are medical doctors who practice homeopathy. They may not advertise that if they work for a hospital or medical group. However, I encourage you to ask your MD if they have training in homeopathy. Like working with medication, your homeopathist will have to see you on a semi-regular basis to adjust the dose as your system responds to treatment.

 

Acupuncture works on a vibrational level directing qi or energy through subtle pathways called meridians. Western science knows these pathways exist because it has been able to observe them with instrumentation. This ancient medical art has been effective in redirecting and or replenishing stagnant or excessive streams of energy that contribute to the physical, emotional and mental problems expressed in symptoms meeting the diagnostic criteria for depressive disorders. It's easy to forget that acupuncture was the primary form of medical care for one of the largest and most powerful civilizations in existence for thousands of years and still remains an integral part of Chinese health care.

 

Physical Fitness. Having a regular work out that involves cardio, muscle strenthening and stretching is an awesome way to harness the synergy of mind/body balance. Think about consluting with a fitness coach or trainer and possibly a nutritionist. Eating healthy foods and at intervals that regualte your blood sugar can produce observable results. Moreover, the endorphins and additional neurchemicals that have a positive impact on mood all respond well to moderate amounts of exercise.

 

Combining one or more of these power partners with psychotherapy is great way to engage the body along with the mind in the healing of anxiety and depression.

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